Adjusting

I can't stress enough to those TTC or expecting mothers how much your life changes. How much your life with DH changes. Crazy changes. Body changes. You name it, it changes. Is it worth it for a LO? Without a doubt!


I don't remember what life was like before Landon and it has only been 10 weeks since his arrival. I can't remember the last time I've been this delighted, proud or the feeling of being on cloud 9. I just love spending time with my little guy and being around him whether he's happy, fussy, sleepy, playing, smiling, "talking", whatever it is...I just love it! I hate being away from him and thats why I hate working full time. Its not that I hate my job, its just I don't like being away from my LO.


So getting back to changes...adjusting to Landon has not been hard for me. Sure, I have my moments I get frustrated, or need me time, or need help, but he's been a fairly easy baby. I have fully embraced and love motherhood With that said, Mike and I have had a hard time adjusting to each other's new roles.


You always hear men and women are programed differently and becoming a mommy and a daddy is no exception. Daddy's are programed diffrently than mommy's. We are having a very hard time with this. I'm sure he won't be happy with me for posting about this but I know I'm not the only one out there going through this and I want others to know that this adjustment period is real and normal.


DH and I argue constantly about the way he does things vs the way I do things and dividing up household chores. Let's talk about this more in depth...I can't stand to hear Landon cry, it just breaks my heart so when DH can't get him to stop crying and sometimes from the lack of really trying on his part, I take Landon and try to calm him down or figure out whats wrong. This wears on me. I feel he should have this natural instinct as well to calm his baby down...but ladies they don't and then they get pissed when you take them away from them. I can understand how he may feel upset, like he can't do anything right but when I've given him tips and he doesn't use them it pisses me off.


Let's talk about dividing things up. I'm so sick of cleaning up after three people. It got old while I was home. Here is our division of household chores


DH pays the bills, mows the grass/snowblows/weed wacks, makes dinner, cleans the showers, does repairs on the house if able, run the wet vac (once in a blue moon), make appts for cars when needed, bathes the dogs on a rare occassion


My responsibilities are to vacuum, dust, wipe nose prints off the windows/doors, clean the bathrooms, clean up the kitchen (and I do this all the time because he doesn't clean up after he makes dinner), laundry (from start to finish), garden (though I've been slacking this summer...wonder why), tidy up (this includes hanging up his coat/clothes, putting his shoes away, etc), grocery shop though DH occassionally runs in....I'll let you know if I think of anything else.


OH and taking care of Landon...not that he doesn't help but this may result in a tif cuz DH doesn't do things my way. For example I've told him NOT to put the bottles in the dishwasher OR just boil them because it leaves this nasty film on the bottles and I just end up handwashing them anyway.


We both share taking care of the dogs and loading/emptying the dishwasher. I dunno does this seem equal to you or just the norm? After being back to work for 2 weeks I feel overwhelmed and stretched thin. For example yesterday I was up 4 times in 7 hours with DS which is highly unusual and finally at 7:oo AM I got up with him. I started cleaning around 9ish with breaks inbetween to calm Landon down or feed him. I went shopping with my mom for about 3 hours and when I got home I continued to clean so I wouldn't have to today. I didn't stop except for a visit from my co-worker Pip and her 2 sons, which was for a half hour, until 8:30. I was exhausted and fell asleep almost as soon as I layed down. I think I've communicated that I do need more help but that seems to have fallen on deaf ears.


So...what's Landon up to? He's teething!! Fist in his mouth, drooling, fussiness, knawing on our fingers or like I said his fist. I really can't believe it. He's doing just so well. Here are some more pics for this week.

Wearing some cute slippers that Gran got me.

Bless you!